FOR RELATIONSHIPS & FAMILY.
Stop the Arguments
Breaking your Relationship.
Not with surface communication tips but at the root. Changing your beliefs, emotions and behaviours.
Multiple Verified 5 Star Reviews
Supervised & Mentored by former Albert Ellis Institute President.
Taught Therapist & Coaches CBT/REBT at Achology Academy, UK.
SOUND FAMILIAR?
Same fight.
Different door.
With your partner.
The comment that shouldn't have set you off. The silence after. You've had this exact argument before, word for word, just with different weather outside.
With family.
The call that turns into a fight in two sentences. The visit you dread before you've arrived. Same argument, decades running, different birthday.
The topic changes. The argument doesn't. Which means you're not fighting about what you think you are.
THE COST OF WAITING.
Every time.
An argument you don't fix doesn't get smaller, it gets louder and faster. What took an hour to blow up now takes a sentence. What used to need a real reason now just needs a tone of voice.
Time doesn't cool an argument down. It just starts quicker.
THE REAL PROBLEM.
It's not the argument.
It's your beliefs.
Generic coaching sells communication tips.
Generic therapy sells years of childhood processing.
Breathing, fitness, yoga, holidays, gifts sell distraction.
None of it fixes the root problem.
I do.
A trigger activates your belief system, what the trigger means to you. Your beliefs then create your emotion and behavioural response. Your behaviour then triggers your partner's belief system. Thats the cycle...
Change your beliefs, and your relationships follow.
BEFORE YOU BOOK
Every objection.
Answered.
It's rarely just one side. But you only control your half of the argument. Change your beliefs, your half stops feeding it, and most arguments can't survive on one side alone.
Doesn't matter who's across from you. Same mechanism. A belief gets triggered, the reaction follows. We work any relationship.
You don't need them to. You're the one part of the argument you can actually change. They can join later.
Most of it works on the argument itself, how you talk, how you time it. I work on the root, belief causing it. That's why this holds when the rest wore off in a week.
No. I'm a coach, not a therapist. If you're in crisis or need clinical care, I'll tell you on the call and refer you on.
WHO IS RELIC WESSELS
I've lived this.
19 years, abusive childhood. One failed marriage. 14 years into my current relationship with my best friend. I didn't figure this out in a classroom. I figured it out the hard way, then studied NLP, CBT, REBT, and got supervised and mentored by Steven A. Johnson the former president of the Albert Ellis Institute, New York, USA.
If it worked on me and millions of others since 1955, it'll work on you.
WHAT CLIENTS SAY
Don't Take
My Word For It.
"He's especially good with relationships."
Relic gave me deeper insight into my relationship and patterns of behaviour. He's especially good with relationships, and self-confidence. Well equipped. Skilled. He's helped me so much.
★★★★★ W. Bradley
"He accomplished what others couldn't."
I've been to psychologists, counsellors, even kinesiology, none of them gave me what I needed. In our first session, Relic accomplished what others couldn't. He uncovered the root of my problems and gave me actionable tools.
★★★★★ A. van Wyk
"Real, lasting confidence."
I've tried CBT before, but REBT with Relic is a completely different experience. To the point. Agile. Focused on the root of issues, building real, lasting confidence instead of circling around problems.
★★★★★ D. Olivier
"He sees straight through to the core."
The first session I've ever found truly helpful. Relic actively listens and sees straight through to the core of the problem. He described exactly how I was feeling when I couldn't verbalise it myself.
★★★★★ C. Hughes
DECIDE
Two doors.
Pick one.
Door One
Keep having the same arguments. Watch your relationships grow further apart as resentment sinks deeper.
Door Two
Book a free 30 minute call. We work out what's really going on, whether the work fits, and whether we're a match.
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