ABOUT
I learnt this
the hard way.
Now I teach it.
19 years in a broken home. A failed marriage. Years of running the same destructive beliefs that turned every disagreement into a war. I found the belief causing it, ripped it out, and changed it. Now I teach others to do the same.
THE ORIGIN
I grew up in
Cape Town.
Married once. Five years in. Ended. Not one thing, everything. The same argument, week after week, with someone I genuinely loved. We couldn't stop running the old beliefs. The next relationship: 14 years and counting. Businesses, losses, sickness, deaths, and it still works. Not luck. I found the beliefs actually breaking it, and I fixed it.
I've sat where you're sitting. I found the way out. Now I help others find it faster than I did.
HOW I BUILT THE PRACTICE
The credentials are real.
The results are the point.
Multiple certificates and diplomas in coaching and modern applied psychology.
Taught REBT and CBT to therapist and coaches at Achology Academy, UK.
Supervised and mentored by Steven A. Johnson PhD, ScD, former President of the Albert Ellis Institute, New York.
Ran a Kickboxing Academy for 11 years, along side a 16 year corporate career before going all in on this. I don't do things halfway.
14yrs
In my current relationship. Lived proof, not theory.
5.0 ★
Every review, five stars. From people who came in skeptical.
Family
Scheduled family days filled with acceptance, growth and connection.
WHO IS THIS FOR
People done
fighting the same fight.
The relationship that keeps cracking over the same argument. The parent or sibling call that turns into a fight in two sentences before you've even said hello. If you've tried the books, the advice, and the waiting, and none of it held, whether it's a partner or your own family, you're who I built this for.
THE POINT OF VIEW
Everyone else works the symptoms.
I work the root.
Most coaching gives you communication scripts and date nights, and calls it a system. Most therapy explores your childhood for years and calls it progress or "holding space". I am problem solving, solution oriented. I work the beliefs running every fight, every replay, every wave of doubt, then give you the tools for what comes after.
WHAT I DON'T DO
The list of refusals.
I don't do therapy.
I don't do clinical work.
I don't do feel-good content.
I don't take everyone who applies.
I don't promise what I can't deliver.
Each one is deliberate. The negative list is how I protect the work.
PROOF
The work,
in their words.
"He listens to what you don't say."
He listens to what you don't say as much as what you say. We have beliefs we aren't even aware of, and Relic helped me uncover the root of them, so you can choose what you think and how you act going forward.
★★★★★ J. de Jarnette
"He got the beliefs holding me back."
Relic listened well, asked the right questions, and helped me get to the bottom of the beliefs that were holding me back, then helped me move forward immeasurably. If you want to change a behaviour, Relic is your person.
★★★★★ A. Nelson
DECIDE
That was me.
Now let's talk about you.
30 minutes. No charge. I'll tell you straight whether I can help, or whether you need someone I'm not.
8 NEW CLIENTS PER MONTH